Monday, December 31, 2012


If I could sum up 2012, I would conclude that it was a year of revelation, growth, and challenge. I came out to my faith community and my neighborhood. I educated many folks about what it is to be transgender and the concerns of transgender People as a group. I also saw the challenges we face in a clear and concise way.

During gay pride month in June I came out to my church family. Some were surprised but the response was overwhelmingly supportive. It was the first time my wife went out with me when I was Gennee. We met many LGBTQI men and women from other churches. The mixer that was given helped open door and established connections.

In October and November a journalism grad student interviewed my wife and me. I shared the video with friends and received positive responses. Keeping up with the issues and topics concerning transgender people was challenging. Much happened in 2012 and more will happen in the coming year. I invited a transgender woman who I met at Transgender Day of Remembrance ceremonies to church. Now Michelle is a regular.

Looking back, 2012 was a year of growth emotionally and spiritually. I met some wonderful folks and made some good friends.  In my next post I will share some goals I have in mind for 2013.


Saturday, December 29, 2012

Response to Pope's Rant

Several days ago I read the vitriolic words of Pope Benedict's thoughts
about marriage equality and about transgender people. A rebuttal was
posted a short time after those remarks. Below is the link.

A Catholic's Response to Pope Benedict XVI's Comments Regarding Marriage Equality

Friday, December 28, 2012


Let each new year be better than the last.

Monday, December 24, 2012



Sunday, December 23, 2012


Their jobs are filled with stress. They aren't paid enough and are vastly under appreciated. Yet they are vital to public service of the citizenry.

1. parents- there's no instruction book

2.teachers- they are professionals, too. They affect the future learning of our children more than one thinks.

3. nurses- just as valuable as doctors. 

4. police/fire/ems personnel- do dangerous jobs that most of us wouldn't.

5. military personnel- much sacrifice to keep us safe.

Video Of Interview

Here is a link to the interview I had in November. I hope that you enjoy it.

Friday, December 21, 2012


I havent though about my goals for 2013 yet but one came to me while I was changing the backround of my blogsite. Purple is one of my favorite colors. This year was one of coming out many times and connecting with like minded folks. It was a year of educating others.

In the upcoming year, I will be involved in two or three issues that are very important to transgender people. One of those issues will be the Gender Expression Non Discrimination Act (GENDA) here in New York State. Probably will travel upstate as to put a face on what it is to transgender.  

I don't know what the other topics will be at this point but I'll post it when I have them.


If you really think about it, we are changing all the time.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Coming Out To Siblings

I'm getting closer to the point that I don't have a desire to own any male clothing.
Right now, I'm sitting at my computer dressed in a red mock sweater and black
maxi skirt. Not wanting to take them off I know that I will have to when I go to bed pretty soon.

 I have the feeling that I may break the news to my brother, sister, and nephew about
Genevieve. When that my happen I can't said but 2013 could be the year.  I'm ready for
the repercussions but as I have mentioned when I come out to someone, there's no going back.
When the time is right I will do this.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Social Settings

I have been to a Christmas party and a cocktail social in recent days. I don't remember if it's the first time out for me at a party as Genevieve but it's great when it's with ladies. I wasn't conscious of being trans, I was being myself. I'm pretty comfortable in social settings.

Saturday, December 15, 2012


We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think.
When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Feeing Better

I'm doing much better after a bout with a viral infection.

Saturday, December 08, 2012

Under The Weather

I went to the emergency room today because of a sore throat. Found out I have a viral infection. One of my lymph nodes is swollen. I was given some antibiotics to take. I'll be in bed for a couple of days. Doesn't prevent me from reading, writing, and posting.  

Tuesday, December 04, 2012


December is here (so fast). This is usually an active month for me. Gatherings, a little shopping, sharing the joy of the season. This past Saturday, there was a Christmas Tree lighting celebration at church. Estimates of how many people came range between eight hundred and a thousand people.

This is also a time of reflection. I'm thankful about the many blessings  bestowed on many folks and on me.Many people will be alone. Some will be depressed. This is particularly true in the LGBT community. Many are estranged from loved ones and families. Bringing joy can be as simple as a smile, a card, a meal, or an invitation to a concert. 

 As the years pass I am reminded of the many people would have passed through my life. I have been  enriched by them and share some of the good tidings with others.     

Saturday, December 01, 2012


On this day, I am reminded of the millions of people who succumbed to the disease. I am mindful of the millions who are suffering. The HIV/AIDS crisis may not be in the headlines as it was thirty years ago but it's still a crisis today. New cases, particularly among young men of color and African American women are on the rise. 

I do not know anyone personally who died from AIDS but I know a few folks who had friends and partners die from it. A couple of years ago, I was at the community center on WORLD AIDS DAY. I listened to some classical music being played by an orchestra. When I heard that some of the instruments being used belonged to deceased partners or friends, I wept. The loss of so many gifted and talented people has been felt by the LGBT community in particular. 

I look forward to the day when this dreaded disease will no longer exist. There are successful treatments out there, though. Education is still needed because there is still stigmatization and ignorance about HIV/AIDS.   

Friday, November 30, 2012


It takes courage to admit when one is wrong.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Internet Back On

After more than a year I finally have my own internet. I've been using the library computers and there are days that I don't feel like leaving the house. I hope to post more and read more. 

Friday, November 23, 2012


How can someone tell me what I should be when they don't even know anything about me?

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Transgender Day Of Remembrance

Last night, I attended the Transgender Day of Remembrance ceremonies at the community center. Well over 100 people attended. There were speakers with some interesting stories about how the work they are doing to end transphobia. It was both somber and yet encouraging to hear so many stories of struggle, discovery, and victory.

A transwoman named M* shared her story about her unhappy life as a male and is now transitioning. M* shared the story of her friend Venus, who was murdered 20 years ago. Venus was instrumental in M* deciding to transition. A transman shared his story of being attacked and seriously injured. I took many of these stories to heart because there's such a long way to go.
I spoke a few words to the audience about my coming out at my place of worship and my family's acceptance. I encouraged them to be themselves. Afterwards, a number of folks thanked me for the words that I spoke. I was invited to speak at one place and the possibility of a portrait of me and my wife from someone else.
I felt this was the best TDOR I've attended because the resolve and determination of folks to fight against transphobia and discriminnation was definitely there.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Thanksgiving Dinner

Today, Thanksgiving dinner will be served to those in need at church. My wife and I will be helping out. There are many folks in need in the neighborhood and we do whatever we can to help. 

Thursday, November 15, 2012


The fight for equality requires knowledge, information,determination, and perseverance.

Tuesday, November 13, 2012


This past Saturday evening, I watched DVD named Out Of The Box. It is the stories of transgender people of faith. Interviewed were a cross dresser, two trans women, and a trans man. Each shared their stories of discovery, struggle, transition,  loss, and redemption. Each individual is now serving in the ministry. It was a positive story to show that transgender people have a vital part in God's kingdom and work.

Afterwards Vivian, a transgender woman, shared her own story. I was fascinated how she broke the news to her family. During refreshments, we talked for fifteen minutes or so,sharing our desire to affect the spiritual community that transgender people are God's people also.  

Friday, November 09, 2012

Coming Out Later in Life

I have been reading the stories of folks who discovered later in life that their sexuality or gender expression were different. Many of the people who commented discovered in their thirties, forties, fities, and even sixties. I was in my mid fifties when I discovered that I love wearing women's clothing.

I took note that not everyone knows that they're gay when they are children. A woman could discover that she attracted to women when she married. A man or woman may realize that they would be much happier as the other gender. Circumstances varied with each person but the results were life changing. What I see is the evolution of each person into their authentic and true identities. When they embraced it, they were much happier and complete.

I came out as a crossdresser then later saw that my feelings ran deeper than clothing. When I researched about my my concerns, that's when I discovered that I  was transgender. From time to time, my gender identity undergoes a shift. I have no desire to fully transition but I haven't closed the door to it. Some may think that I missed out on a lot by coming out late. I just believe that it was the right time for me to coming out in the world.

It's been over seven years since I came out as Gennee. This year I came out to more people. I will be coming out to more people in the future. 

Monday, November 05, 2012

Survived Hurricane Sandy

I survived Hurricane Sandy. Where I live, there was only some downed trees, a little flooding, and a few power outages. My residence is on a hill so was spared much of the flooding. Some other neighborhoods were really devastated. I used to live in Coney Island and was born in Staten Island so I know how vulnerable these places are. New Jersey was really decimated.

I thought the news coverage was spotty in that they showed the same pictures over and over. Also the poor areas and the projects were virtually neglected.

Thursday, November 01, 2012


Discontent is the first step in the progress of a man or a nation.

~Chinese proverb

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Friday, October 19, 2012



Wearing Purple this Weekend.

I am wearing purple in support of those who have been bullied.  It's time that this scourge is confronted. Let's wrap our arms around those who have been bullied and harassed and tell them that we love them.

Monday, October 15, 2012

Beyond Labels

This past Thursday the Beyond Labels ministry at church met to discuss ideas for the coming year. Many wonderful ideas were presented. I mentioned that Transgender Day of Remembrance was coming up next month. I informed the group that I will be attending the ceremony at the community center. Some folks may come in support.

The assistant pastor is writing something about transphobia.  I am gathering materials about the origins of Transgender Day of Remembrance.  My wife stated publically that she fully supports me. One of my desires is to reach out to transgender people who may be stealth or struggling. What I'm really pleased about is that people of faith both LGBTQI and straight are involved in spearheading this outreach.

Friday, October 12, 2012


Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better. 


Tuesday, October 09, 2012


This year has gone by so fast! The elections are less than a month away, transgender day of remembrance ceremonies come up next month,  and once again Thanksgiving and Christmas will be upon us. 

2012 has been a big year for transgender people in that many communities around the country are even discussing this issue. There have been some victories, some defeats. What has been consistent in my life is the desire to share with others what being transgender is. There have been inroads in my place of worship and within the community that I live in. I have seen more trans folks here and there on the street. The trans community is largely invisible. 

I'm aware of some concerns (safety) but I cannot let that stop me. With each passing day my trans identity is being defined and refined. I sense that there will be more internal changes in the future. I am thankful for an accepting and understanding mate who has come to terms with my transgenderism. 

Friday, October 05, 2012


Each day presents us with a new opportunity to improve ourselves.

Monday, October 01, 2012

Getting Back To Normal

September was a very trying month. My sister was evicted from her apartment while she was in the hospital. My wife was in the hospital for three days. My brother and I handled the storage and moving affairs. My wife is much better now. I haven't been on the forums or posting much lately but now I'm getting back to normal. 

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Calm In the Face of Conflict and Struggle

I was browsing the GLBT section of Barnes and Noble. I thumbed through some of the books which I was interested in. I realized that I've come along way just in the last year.

My post about what happened in an eating establishment doesn't deter me from living life in a positive manner. I try to remain calm in the face of conflict and struggle. I also see the challenges that we all face. With increased visibiblity have come acts of violence and hatred against us.

I don't see myself as a leader of some movement or platform but I can't sit by and not lend a hand in some manner. This is something that has come into my path and I must follow it

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Close To Home

I have frequented this establishment a few times. I usually hang out in Greenwich Village. This hits close to home for me. Won't stop me from going there.

Friday, September 21, 2012


There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time. 

~Malcolm X

Thursday, September 20, 2012

More Opportunities

Tuesday evening, I shared with a young woman at bible study about my transition. Previously she saw and knew in male mode. I shared with her about my coming out in June.  She was pleased with my response. 

Later, another woman told me that she would like me to meet someone she knows that is transgender. I look forward to meeting her. 

Monday, September 17, 2012

Very Hectic

The past couple of weeks have really been hectic. First my sister was in the hospital for surgery. She's doing okay in her rehabilitation. My brother and I put her belongings in storage. She's going to move into a smaller and less expensive place.  My wife spent a few days in the hospital after complaining of dizziness and blurred vision. She's better now and is at home. She uses a cane now because her arthritis in her right knee. We looking to get therapy. Things are calming down and getting back to normal.

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

More Surprises

On Sunday at church, a young couple discovered that I am transgender. They sat in the same pew as my wife and me. We know the couple. After service she shared with them that the woman standing next to her was her husband. They were quite shocked  to say the least. Every week at least one person discovers that I'm transgender. It's my way of educating the public.

Later in the evening, my wife and I were having coffee  at a local restaurant. While she was getting our coffee, a woman at the next table was staring at me. I was busy reading my email but sensed that her eyes were searching me trying to figure me out. Later, my wife stated such. It's happened to me before but I pay no attention to them.

It was quite a day from two different perspectives.

Friday, September 07, 2012

Experience is not what happens to you; it's what you do with what happens to you.

Aldous Huxley

Quite a Week

The past week has really been dramatic. The three day weekend was very nice and relaxing. I have been to a couple activities at the SAGE center here. I met some wonderful people and look forward to being more involved. 

I have had some family drama also. My sister is recuperating from surgery. My nephew has moved on after splitting from his ex. Can't say my life has been boring.

Friday, August 31, 2012


Enjoy the Labor Day weekend!


I thank you God for this most amazing day, for the leaping greenly spirits of trees, and for the blue dream of sky and for everything which is natural, which is infinite, which is yes.


Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Clearer Picture

When I first posted this I wasn't sure at all what the changes would be. Now I have a clearer picture. I sense that in a year or two I'll reveal my identity to my brother and sister. This will be a huge step and I'm not really sure if it will happen.

I also sense there will be another shift in my transgender expression. I have shared with many folks over the past couple of months. This past Sunday another member of the church discovered that I was transgender.

I have degree in childhood education. I have maintained that my teaching career will not necessarily be in a tranditional setting. This seems to be happening more often. I'm preparing some materials about transgender pioneers. Possibly I may educate more folks about our history. That's about where I am at the present time.

Saturday, August 25, 2012

More Changes In Store

I have been out in my neighborhood more and more. It's very refreshing to see that people see and treat me like anyone else. I've even received some compliments. It's really wonderful that I can be authentic self.

I see that there will be some changes ahead. I don't know what they will be but I sense it. This is nothing new with me because whatever I did sense in the past came to fruition. I will have a clearer picture in the months ahead.

Friday, August 24, 2012


Never forget the folk who came before you. Never forget thse who helped you.

Thursday, August 23, 2012


I have been out and about in my neighborhood. I get some compliments about my attire, all positive. I wear sandals during these months and I have received some positive compliments about my feet. A man told me just last night that I have beautiful feet. I always seem to get compliments about me that I don't expect.

Tuesday, August 21, 2012


I trek through the same places,
New environs create new spaces.
Have I evolved?
Is the riddle solved?
The storm clouds have lifted,
I see now that I'm gifted.

Friday, August 17, 2012


None are so old as those who have outlived enthusiasm

~Henry David Thoreau

Tucson's Birthday

I was reading on of my posts about the upcoming birthday party for the city of Tucson, Arizona. The city will be 237 years old. I didn't know that Tucson was around that long.

Monday, August 13, 2012

Seen As A Woman

Ever since I came out at my place of worship, I have been treated and spoken to as a woman. It's even happened in other places that I go. Been hit on a number of times also.It's really been amazing. Interacting with the public has helped along with some pointers from my spouse.

Friday, August 10, 2012


As I approve of a youth that has something of the old man in him, so I am no less pleased with an old man that has something of the youth. He that follows this rule may be old in body, but can never be so in mind.

                                                                                                              ~Marcus Tullius Cicero

Wednesday, August 08, 2012

Chooosing To Be Authentic

You decide that you can no longer continue life on the current course. The gender struggles get stronger and are not going away. The day comes when a decision has to be made. Do you make the changes needed or continue on the track you're running on?

I enjoy reading many posts and the progress people are making. It encourages me that my trans sisters and brothers are choosing to be authentic. This is wonderful and greatly needed. Actions can affect others in ways that we may not always see. It's the reason I choose to be open with others. Just recently, I educated a young couple about my transgenderism. I have seen other transgender people in my neighborhood. I know that they are out there, but not always visible.

There are common threads that run through all the posts. The one that makes the most impression on me is people choosing to be authentic. I was afraid in the beginning. When I made the choice to proceed forward, I never looked back. The footprints of the past were gone. I'm still moving forward. Many of my sisters and brothers are doing likewise.

I never travel this road before.
Lined with thick brush and boulders,
it looks strange and forboding.
there's nothing to guide me.
Each step forward is a step closer to my destiny.
I trek on, not knowing what awaits me.
I'm gently nudged forward by an unseen hand
I look behind me and footprints of my past are gone.   

Friday, August 03, 2012

Coming To Terms

     What happens when a person discovers that they aren’t what they thought they were?  What do they do when the time comes to make the decision to accept their real identity?

     Many men and women erroneous thought that they could pray the gay away. Some thought that it was ridiculous that they were more interested in the habits and manners of the opposite gender. Some marry and have children thinking that just need a good mate to take away the urges they have. Men join the army to become ‘real men’. Women become engrossed in womanly pursuits to prove that they are women.

     The day comes when they can no longer keep in who they are. Now they have to decide which it is that they desire to be. As I write this, I’m sure there are men, women, boys, and girls who are tired of hiding. They just want to be authentic. If only society and their family and friends would understand.

     Thankfully many have come out of hiding. It was a grand day when I came out as transgender. Every day many people reveal their true identity to the world. I pray that those folks who are struggling will see that they are created exactly as they are. They have nothing to be ashamed of. They needn’t feel guilty or ashamed. They have the right to be who they are.



     Reading about folks coming to terms with their gender or sexuality thrills me. It’s a liberating experience for them in that they can move forward to living the lives that they desire. Denial turned out to be an albatross around their necks.

     I’m acquainted with denial because I was in denial several weeks before finally accepting myself as a cross dresser. Denial puts off the inevitable for a short time. We can say that we’re not gay or transgender. We can do all we can to prove to others that we are “manly” or a real woman. For a while things can roll along smoothly. Then the day comes when we’re come face to face with the truth.

     I wonder what many people have committed suicide because they denied an aspect of themselves. It’s one thing that society gives us a hard way to go. When we add denial and self-loathing to an already unbearable load, it’s a matter of before a person shows cracks in the armor.  What’s really sad is when some people who deny who they are will do everything to deny others their rights.

     How each person comes out is a personal matter. It is also vital that each person has a healthy and positive view of themselves. A healthy mind, body, and spirit is as important as looking good or impressing others.  

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Still Making an Impact

This past Sunday, another person didn't know who I was until I told them. My wife has been asked a number of times 'where's your other half?' You should see the looks I get when she points out that I'm her. I have also been more comfortable walking around in my own neighborhood.

Friday, July 27, 2012



A kind word can bring joy
A cruel can destroy
A tender word can warm the heart
Bitter words make the spirit tart
Words are like the morning dew
It takes two to say 'thank you'.
Words that tear down
Cause the spirit to drown
In sorrow and defeat
So words must be soft and discreet
Words can cause others to fall
If I don't have a kind word to say
Better to say nothing at all.

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Seven Years

On this date in 2005, I came out to myself as a cross dresser. All the tension and struggle and inner turmoil dissipated  upon making that confession. I have progressed from a cross dresser to transgenderist to transgender. I've never been happier.  

Dog Days

The dog days of July and August are upon us. The exciting activity of June with all the pride events has been replaced by the calm placidity of July.  It's easy to assume that nothing is happening but that certainly is not the case.

Here in New York City there's always something going on. The Newfest Film Festival starts tomorrow. I love viewing films made by and for the LGBTQ community. There are many film fests that go on throughout the year.  My spouse and I will celebrate our birth shortly (we were born on the same day). We have written many short stories and poems in the meantime. As you can see life hasn't stopped.

It's a wonderful time to reflect on what has changed in our lives during the year. I'm much different now than I was at this time last year and my wife has noticed it. The dog days are really days we can recharge and relax. I always try to see the value in times like this. Some precious has been the result. I know that up ahead there will be more challenges that will need my attention.   

Friday, July 20, 2012


Find what it is you like to do, then do it with passion and joy.

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Reflecting About Bruce Gerig

Last evening I attended a ceremony in which the ashes of my friend were spread into the river. We shared our thoughts about Bruce prior to doing this. Bruce was a generous, loving, and caring man who love God and people. He especially loved the LGBT community. 

Bruce Gerig passed on May 29th at the age of seventy six. He left us a rich legacy of writings, articles, art (which I didn't know that he possessed this talent), and comments. Bruce was a shining example of what we should strive to be in our daily lives. I miss him but the season that he was in my life will always remain.

Rest in peace, Bruce.

Friday, July 13, 2012


A compliment is something like a kiss through a veil.

~Victor Hugo

Thursday, July 12, 2012

One Of the Ladies

This past Sunday, some of the worshippers sat in the church garden after service for coffee and refreshments. I was wearing a pink floral maxi skirt, rose blouse and sandals. A group of us ladies were talking and sharing many things. It felt so natural to me. Some know my feminine name and call me Genevieve. I absolutely love it! I was one of the ladies.

I have really been blessed with the all the compliments and kind words by many. Last Sunday one sister asked me about the outfit that I wore. It wore a white maxi skirt, a green top, and white pullover. It’s amazing how coming out to them has affected both myself and my spouse. She’s beginning to enjoy and accept it.

Friday, July 06, 2012


I don't believe one grows older. I think what happens early on in life is that at a certain age one stands still and stagnates.

                                                                                                                                                       ~T.S. Eliot

Thursday, July 05, 2012

Self Acceptance

Self- acceptance is the first step toward self discovery. It is declaring that I accept who I am regardless of what others say or think. The fog clears away and opportunities to express  my gender variance without shame or fear.

When I accepted that I was a cross dresser, the tension and stress of several weeks of denial dissipated. in due time contentment followed. I felt comfortable in my own skin. I was free to explore and grow as a transgender woman. 

No one can live our lives for us. Seeking to improve ourselves does not compromise us as individuals, parents, or neighbors. I sometimes cringe when I hear that some one is called  selfish because they desire to transition or be the person they desire to be. Gender variance does go against so called societal convention but it has always existed. 

Declaring my transgender identity has been a blessing to me. I have relief, inner contentment, joy, acceptance, and support. I pray that some one will be encouraged by this post.

Monday, July 02, 2012

Second Half Begins

June was a big month for pride in New York City. It culminated with the big pride Parade on the 24th. Now with the festivities over, the real work goes on.

Victories have been won, losses have also happened. The plight of homeless LGBTQ youth has been brought to the forefront. In my mind, this needs to be a top priority. Since my coming out to my church family I have been inquiring about where I need to get busy.

This coming out has been a transformation of sorts. Visibility puts a face on the needs and desire of transgender people. I never thought that I would come this way but I need to be a force for change. It can be big or small. Just helping out in any way will reap benefits later on.

Friday, June 22, 2012


Just because something has never been achieved does not mean that it cannot.

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Remembering Our History

My own personal theme for this pride month is to remember those who came before us. After reading the stories of the many of the pioneers of transgender and gay movements, I am heartened by their steadfastness, courage, and determination. Three people who really inspire me are Miss Major, Marsha P. Johnson, and Sylvia Rivera. 
I am presently making up a portfolio of their lives because I hope to share it with members of my church. 

I recently read about Dewey Lunch Counter Sit In of 1965. African American transgender people spoke out and prevailed a full four years before the Stonewall event in New York and a year before the Compton Cafeteria Riot in San Francisco.  To say that we have no history is tantamount to saying that we never existed. This I will NOT take lying down.

As we celebrate our pride, take time to think of those who stood up in the face of hate, violence, and suffering and said Enough! 

Monday, June 18, 2012

Touched By Angels

      I attended two memorial services this weekend. On Saturday we celebrated the life of
my friend, Bruce Gerig, a man who came into my life shortly after I came out. He made me feel welcome when I first came to the bible studies at the community center. He was generous, bigger than life, knowledgeable about many subjects, and had an infectious laugh that warmed up a room. What I remember most about Bruce was how comfortable he was with himself as a gay man. It helped me to be comfortable with myself as a transgender person.
     On Sunday I attended a second memorial for a woman affectionately known as “Rookie”. I never met or knew her but I felt that I did. She was helpful and used what talents she had to the utmost. Rookie had been a greeter in church. I remarked to someone that I believe that Rookie paved the way for my wife and me when we arrived last fall. We felt welcome and comfortable.
     I am reminded that life is full of seasons. Seasons gradually come, stay awhile, and then gradually leave. Seasons can last moments or years. People come into our lives at particular times. Our lives can be seasons for other folks. We may never realize the affect they have or the impressions we make but it does happen.
     Bruce demonstrated warmth and realness. He demonstrated to me that I should be comfortable with myself. Rookie encourages me to use whatever talent I have to the fullest. These two wonderful people touched lives in ways that we will always cherish.
Bruce, Rookie, thank you for coming into and enriching our lives.  

Friday, June 15, 2012


Being authentic takes courage.

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Coming Out As Gennee In My House Of Faith

This month has been blessed and my spouse has been a part of it. I mentioned a couple of posts back that she attended service with me when I was Gennee. We have gone three times since.

Last Friday, we attended a gathering where other churches in our denomination came to our place. It was wonderful chatting with other LGBTQ folks about our experiences and lives. This past Sunday it was service and honoring the graduates. On Monday we went to film viewing in which the director of child ministry, his wife, and son were in. the DVD is called 'An Ordinary Family'. I'm going to purchase the DVD. I recommend it to churches and schools because more of these institutions are dealing with this issue.

Some folk were asking my wife where I was because we are usually together. She just pointed to me. They were so surprised! They didn't recognize me. I received a number of compliments, also. I was accepted and embraced by them. It has been a wonderful time for us.

Friday, June 08, 2012


Either everybody is equal or nobody is equal.

Monday, June 04, 2012

Wife Attended Church With Me

Yesterday, a milestone was achieved. My spouse and I went to our place of worship with me dressed as Gennee. I was very calm and relaxed. as we entered the church. We attended the adult education class where a few people didn't recognize me until I told them. They were so surpirised. Once again Louise revealed that she has accepted in my transgender identity.
Sunday was also the beginning of our new LGBTQI ministry. After service there was a luncheon to kick the event off. I received a number of compliments from other worshipers. This was something that I hoped and prayed for-to attend church with my wife as Gennee. Another Milestone was reached as I strolled with Louise through my neighborhood. Louise would never go with me when I was dressed but she did on Sunday. I'm so thrilled and look forward to doing more things as Gennee.

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Conference on homeless LGBT youth.

Yesterday my wife and I attended a conference centered on improved services for homeless LGBT youth. Here in New York City there are around 4000 homeless LGBT youth but only 250 bed available. Much of the participants were churches, synagogues, and others in the religious comunities. I met one woman who ministers to predominantly LBGT people.

I am pleased that places of worship are taking up the struggle for homeless youth. My wife and I, along with another woman represented our place of worship. 

Friday, May 25, 2012


Don't find fault, find a remedy.

                             ~Henry Ford

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

We Are Like Flowers

This past Saturday my wife and I were planting flowers in the church's garden. There were many colors; reds, yellow carnation, white and purple. When they were planted, we admired them. When they were watered, the flowers seem to come alive with vitality.

I see those of us who are gender variant and transgender as flowers. We are a part of the wonderful landscape. Many have tried to burrow us under the soil but we keep springing up. We are are as much of God's creation as anyone else. Letting our beauty shine forth adds much to life's tapestry. Let's not hide it under a bushel basket but let our lives shine from the hilltops and mountains.

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Did Mom Forsee?

I trust that everyone's Mother's Day was good. It's great that all mothers are honored.

I lost my mom in 2001 but her influence upon me is still felt. We thought a lot alike, shared our sense of fashion, and could sense when something was not right. Recently, my wife revealed to me a conversation that she had with my mom. Mom shared with her that I like to wear pink. My brother and my son don't.  I didn't think much about it until I remembered that at the same time I began to struggle with my gender issues. Now I wonder if mom had an inkling of what I was to face a few years later? That I like to wear pink seemed immaterial to me until the gender angle entered in.

It's said that it's that moms know how their children are no matter how far away from home they are
I wonder if mom knew that I would become 'Gennee'?

Monday, May 07, 2012

Wife's Acceptance

Last Thursday evening my wife accepted me as a transgender person. It happened at a meeting at church. We are part of a task force that is creating and LGBTQI ministry which will kick off in June. Each person shared the their story and reasons for being there. When it was Louise's turn she shared her acceptance of me as a transgender woman. I was thrilled to say the least. It was also something that I prayed for. The following night I revealed my feminine name to her. I sensed that she was ready and my hunch proved to be correct. Louise read an article that I had written for an online magazine. She liked the article very much. Her acceptance means so much. There are some things that we are still working on but the future looks bright. My group of friends want to meet her. Louise has some trepidations right now but in time she will be ready. I'm so thankful and rejoicing.

Thursday, May 03, 2012

Proceeding Ahead

Last night as lie in bed, I thought about how far my journey has taken me. I have gone much farther than I anticipated, not that I had any control over it. It dawned on me that there is still more in the way of experiences, discoveries, and changes that will be made in my life. Referring to the last comment, I see this as part my being authentic. It's stange that the world tends to shun and ignore authentic people and yet they want some one who is real. The separating point, I believe, is that if folks are willing to make changes necessary to have a meaningful life. It can relate to improved diet, lifestyle, gender identity, education, belief systems, ideologies, or a myriad of many things. Yes, it's a sacrifice and it may cost something. I see it as giving one thing up in exchange for something else. People are much more perceptive about life than they are given credit for. It can be positive or negative. Up to this point the changes made in my life has affected my spouse's percepton of me. She still loves me but is still trying to grasp my gender variance. I'm affecting three genderations; mine, my son, and my grand child. There will be more changes in store for me, some far ranging than in previous times. I have concluded to I want to be authentic. I want to make an impact in the lives of others. I desire to speak out in the face of overwhelming odds. Crazy? Maybe. I have no ther recourse. I can't turn back. I must proceed ahead.

Friday, April 27, 2012


Don't let your ideologies and beliefs stop you from doing what is right.

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Book Opens Up Discussion

I am presently reading Peggy Rudd's book My Husband Wears My Clothes. My spouse is reading it also. I have also been thoughful of my spouse's feelings about my dressing. The book reminds me that others are affected by what I do. Conversely, her attitude towards crossdressing and transgender affect the both of us.

She is asking quesions again which I always welcome. I feel this time the questioning will go deeper than in previous times. She's still trying to wrap her mind around a male wearing women's clothing. What I like about Rudd's book is that it takes crossdressing from the spouse's perspective. My spous revealed to me that when she found out that I crossdress she wished tha she would wake up one day and find the whole idea of it gone.

I remind her that I'm still trying to understand what being transgender is. When I came out to her seven years ago, the main thing I was concerned with was how this would affect our family and our marriage. Thus far it has been positive. We do a lot of things together and enjoy being wih each other. One woman at our church took notice of this.  

I said earlier this year that it would be a pivotal in ou lives. I seems to be heading in that direction. I've been out in public dressed almost every day for the past few weeks. I've felt much better about doing this and even a few folks on the sreet hae taken notice. I'm very upbeat about where all this is heading. 

Friday, April 20, 2012


Change is such hard work.

Billy Crystal

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Seven Years

I have been out for nearly seven years now. There have been many improvements and changes. Protections for GLBT persons are law in many counties, towns, states, and countries. There is also more backlashes because we dare to make our voices heard. Transgender Day of Remembrance reminds me that we’re still in a fight.

What is encouraging is that more people are seeing through the labyrinth of lies thrown up by our enemies. I am seeing cracks in the armor of seemingly impenetrable social institutions because people are being educated about gender and sexuality. The church is one such institution. I am part of a task force that forming a ministry for LGBTQI persons. I’m very happy about this because I’m involved with the church. No longer can churches ignore part of their congregations because we are everywhere. One of my desires is share my story and educate the church about what it is to be transgender.

On a personal level, I’m very comfortable with where I am at the present time. The gender has been fluid the past several days. I have been interacting with the public quite a bit. I enjoy speaking with others. Others hve taking notice because I’ve been sent emails and notes. I even have an admirer at the community center.

My spouse is still trying to understand my being transgender but she has made progress. I’m making new discoveries as I continue on this journey. I’m really happy about life.

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Gender Is Fluid

My gender has been fluid the past few days. The weather has been warm so I'm out and about the city quite a bit. This past Saturday I wore a dress for the second time. I kept getting looks from folks everywhere. There were two men who took notice and remarked to each other. I was recently called ma'am by someone in my building.  

I spent time at the library, the community center, two bookstores, a park hung out in during the 60s and 70s, and a book fair. It has been much for me interacting with the public.This is a victory for me because at one time I was reticent about speaking. 

Last night, I discovered that I have an admirer. I was waiting for a friend at the community when this man came over and spoke with me I had seen and exchanged hellos with him in the past. He was fascinated with my hands. I have long sleek fingers. He complimented me on my attire. We spoke f or about ten minutes before he had to leave. Earlier in the day I received fou emails from gentlemen desiring a relationship. Basically all I did was change my avatar. I guess that got the ball rolling. 

I've had som moments of total contentment. Once again, I flirted with idea of transitioning.  my spouse has noticed more changes in me, most noticably about clothing. I talk quite a bit about all the pretty dresses and skirts in the stores. I'm still rather fluid so I expect more things to happen today.      

Friday, April 13, 2012


Let us put our minds together and see what life we can make for our children.

~Sitting Bull, Lakotan Statesman

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Looking at life from the feminine perspecive has opened up my view of life in general. I've always been open to new experiences and ideas because of my natural curiosity. I'm not sure if gender fluidity contributes to this perception but the more I live as awoman the moreI believe that perception.

My wife has noticed this and she points it out. Looking ahead, I see that there will be more changes in my life. Some of them will not be easy but I'm willing to make the necessary changes to improve the lives of transgender people. I hae changed my views about many of our institutions and some of the things we've been taught. I see that there are beter ways of improving the lives of other as well as ourselves. To this end I will continue to work.

Saturday, April 07, 2012


Spring is awakening from a dark and cold winter.

Tuesday, April 03, 2012

One of the beautiful aspects of spring is the flowers that bloom. Where I live tulips have been blossoming early because of the unusually warm weather for this time of year. I love the color they give to the dull landscape of a dry winter. 

In the same analogy, we trans people give the world beauty and color. We may see life from a different perspective (speaking for myself). I see myself as a flower that adds beauty to the landscape of the world. I may not be recognized or held in high esteem but I am a part of a diverse tapestry. 

Saturday, March 31, 2012

Task Force Meeting

The meeting we had about the creation of an LGBTQI ministry went well. About twenty people came to the meeting including my wife. Each person shared why they came. I shared my reasons plus revealing my transgenderism. I discovered that there other transgender folks who attend the church. The minister who lead the meeting is bisexual.

I'm trying to come up with some suggestions for the ministry. My wife is still trying to understand what it is to be transgender. In time I believe that she will. One young woman asked what name I would like to be called. I haven't come come to the church dressed as Gennee yet but I have a feeling that will come soon. The next meeting is in April.

Friday, March 30, 2012


In a gentle way, you can shake the world.

~Mahatma Gandhi

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Writing Projects

Some writing projects have come up.The interested parties need trans persons to write about their experiences, articles, stories, etc. At the present time I'm considering two projects. I have always wanted to do something like this. I'm cautious because I do NOT want this to turn into a circus. I will NOT put transgender people in a negative light either. My hope is to educate many about me and others like me.  

Friday, March 23, 2012

Knowing One's History

On yesterday's post I quoted a statement by Marcus Garvey about knowing one's history. Though directed to African Americans it can certainly apply to transgender folks. We have a long and valient history of activism, exuberance, and creativity.

I thank sister Monica Roberts of Transgriot for her research on this subject of role models for people of color. Transgender role models are important because it shows the diversity of humankind regardless of socio-economic status or culture.

I have Indian ancestry (Choctaw) and transgenderism was a normal part of the culture until colonization. Upon further research, at 130 Indian tribes have transgender-two spirit persons. I agree with Garvey that people need to know their history because it gives us a foundation to stand on. It also refutes the constant attack that transgender and gender variant people are deviants and sinners. We have always existed.

Thursday, March 22, 2012


A people with the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture is like a tree without roots.

~Marcus Garvey

I will comment further on this tomorrow.

Friday, March 16, 2012


We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity. we need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing, and inclusion.

~Max de Pree

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

New Ministry Forming

A task force is being created at my church in the lauching of a ministry for LGBTQI persons, allies, family and friends. The initial meeting will be held on 29th. I will be attending the meeting I'm really excited about this. There are a number of gay and lesbian couples who attend the services. So far as I know I'm the only transgender person there. Hey, maybe I'll meet some other TG persons.

Friday, March 09, 2012


We need to look beyond our immediate future and aim higher and farther.

~Paul Biya, Cameroonian Statesman, (b.1933)

Transgender Bills Being Talked About

I have been doing quite a bit of reading about bills for transgender equality and identity protections in various parts of the country and the world. With that there is also much opposition through intimidation and misinformation. It's a job staying up to date and vigilent but it is well worth it.

What I'm amazed at is that these bills are being talked about in such conservative bastions as Nebraska, Utah, and Michigan. What I see is the need to still educate people about transgender issues because the opposition is not quitting or letting up. Some laws have been passed while others are being bandied about. It may very well be that this will be a topic during this election year.

With the opposition pulling out all the stops I see that we are making progress. It's a battleground but a battle worth fighting for.

Friday, March 02, 2012


My ancestors foresaw that I could travel this journey.

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

No Winter Here

We really haven't had a winter here. There's only been one snowstorm (about 5 inches) and that's it. Much of the time it has been in the high 40's and low to mid 50's. I'm not complaining. I love it.

I tied what I'm experiencing as a winterless season with my transgender journey. On the calendar it's still winter but the outside forces which I normally associate with winter aren't there. I may consciously or unconsciously associate my journey to some feeling or a look or a behavior. I'm reminded that each person's journey is different. While I may not see or feel the changes, they are occuring nevertheless. I'm enjoying the ride because I'm cherishing the moment that I'm in.

Just like the weather I have no control over what comes my way. I do have control on how I respond to the changes. Comparing one experience to another is easy to do but does it really speak about how we actually perceive ourselves?

We are all unique and travel our own paths. We may not always comprehend the events in our lives but they are happening for our betterment. I mentioned earlier that I do love the unusually warm winter. I'm embracing each moment as something special.

Friday, February 24, 2012


Happiness is not matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony

~Thomas Merton (1915-1968)

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Shared With Pastor That I'm Transgender

Last night after bible study I shared with the pastor that I am transgender. He was so happy for me sharing this with him. The church I attend is affirming. There are gay and lesbian couples that attend regualrly. As far as I know I'm the only transgender person there. I felt joy and relief at the same time.

Friday, February 17, 2012



Wednesday, February 15, 2012


Life has been very busy for me the past two or three weeks. I have been keeping up (trying) with advancements of transgender people. With the failed measures in South Dakota and Minnesota, it demonstrates that there's more work to be done. In the coming weeks I will present article resources and comments on topics about and which affect the transgender community. I will continue to share about my ongoing journey.

My wife and I joined an affirming church this past Sunday. It's an affirming and open church for ALL. As far as I know I'm the only transgender person. Soon I will meet with the pastor and share my concerns and and that I'm transgender.

Friday, February 10, 2012


How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in your life you will have been all of these.

~George Washington Carver, African American Scientist (1864-1943)

Saturday, February 04, 2012


He is richest who is content with the least, for content is the wealth of nature.


Thursday, February 02, 2012

Avid Reader

I am an avid reader of many subjects and topics. Everything from geography to history to poetry to biography piques my interest. It's good to read because it keeps the brain sharp.

One of my favorite topics is stories about trans people. I read a lot of them because I want to keep up with the progress we are making, albeit slowly. I also have read some horror stories about the treatment of transgender people. It keeps things in proper perspective. It also pushes me to keep working towards trans equality.

Monday, January 30, 2012

Attend Affirming Church

I attend an accepting church. My wife and I have become members as of yesterday. There were at least 3 gay couples and 5 or 6 lesbian couples. As far as I know I'm the only transgender person there. My wife and I feel comfortable and have made some friends.

I may speak with the pastor about my being transgender. I can honestly say that I feel comfortable about doing this. I'm also sensitive to my wife's feelings. She accepting of my dressing up to a point. Recently, for the first time, she walked beside me on the street while I was dressed. As you can small advances have made. I would make my day when I attend service dressed up.

Friday, January 27, 2012


Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wednesday, January 25, 2012


I am much happier as a transgender woman that I ever was as a man.I feel complete and liberated. I am comfortable with who I am what I have become. It keeps getting better.

I accept the fact that I'm different. Until I came out, I always felt that way but never knew why. I am part of humankind but present in a different way. My perspective about life is different, having experienced both ridicule and self doubt. I overlook both and now have a positive outlook.

Monday, January 23, 2012

Wife Notices Even More Of My Gender Transition

My wife has noticed more changes. Last Sunday while riding home, she commented that I cross my legs like a woman. A few days later she walked with me on the street for the first time when I was dressed. I'm wondering what other changes she's noticed?

I also entertained the possibility of transitioning. At this point I'm very sure that I won't but I have cogitated the idea. I never closed the door on transitioning but I have learned that many things in my journey have come to pass.

Friday, January 13, 2012


A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.

~Nelson Mandela

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Tansgender Issues

I have been reading quite bit about transgnder issues. There's much happening on the local, county, and international scale. I will be posting some results and a comment at least once a week but hopefully twice.

2012 will be a pivotal year for all Americans, and for the LGBTQ community in particular. Most important we need to make sure that those who supposedly represent us follow our wishes and concerns. If they don't we must take them to task. We need to occupy our own movement.

I am happy with the progress we made and much more needs to be done.

Monday, January 09, 2012

Coming Out More Than One Time Event

Coming out is a very personal matter. It's telling the world that this is who I am. I am mindful that my coming out process came several weeks after discovering that I was a crossdresser. When I did accept myself all of the stress in my life dissipated.

It took over a week that I had gone over a divide that I never imagined that I would cross. I have concluded that coming out is not a one time event. It's happened to me a number of times. I proceeded from a crossdresser to transgenderist to transgender.

At the present time I am experiencing another shift in my identity, moving closer to identifying as fully feminine. This is after a long period of relative calm. What has helped is that I embrace whatever comes. The journey will be ongoing replete with discoveries and adventures.

I enjoy reading posts from folks who have or are just coming out and accepting their sexuality/gender identity. For me it has become easier. I have never tried to pin down what gender is; I just enjoy the ride.

Friday, January 06, 2012


Dream no small dreams for they have no power to move the hearts of men.

~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, German Poet (1749-1832)

Tuesday, January 03, 2012


A new year has arrived. I'm very excited about the possibilities of new and challenging adventures. I see a new year as working to improve ourselves and have an impact on the lives of others. This is my main goal for 2012. I'm still working on specific goals at this time. One of them is to have my first chapbook published.

Do you have any goals or activities or adventures planned for the year? I would love to hear from you and share it with us.