Genevieve's Gems

In my deepest, darkest moments, what really got me through was a prayer. Sometimes my prayer was 'Help me.' Sometimes a prayer was 'Thank you.' What I've discovered is that intimate connection and communication with my creator will always get me through because I know my support, my help, is just a prayer away.

~Iyanla Vanzant, Author (b.1953)

Never Felt That Way

I've never felt that I was born in the wrong body. Yes, I did feel different but not to the point that it troubled me 24/7.

I never had an inkling that I wasn't masculine nor were any thoughts of anything feminine in my life.  I was your typical male doing things attributed to males. When I began to have these questions in the early 2Ks, I was confused. I never had such thoughts before in my life. Gradually those thoughts grew stronger. Even when it was pointed out to me that I was a cross dresser, I could wrap my mind around the idea that I had feminine thoughts and tendencies. I knew about transsexuals but never even considered going that route.

In the month that I came out as a cross dresser and discovered that I was transgender, the thought of being in the wrong body never crossed my mind. It was time for the feminine side of me to be presented to the world. In the ten plus years since then I've haven't looked back. 

I believe that I'm not completely masculine or feminine. I never hated being male, I just prefer being a woman. I have been blessed many lovely trans-women and trans-men on my journey.I have never been happier in my life. 

Genevieve's Gems

Everybody has a gift; it's to you to discover what it is.

~Genevieve

Newfest Film Festival Coming Up

A reminder that New York's LGBT Film Festival (Newfest) will begin this Thursday, October 22nd. 


Go to www.newfest.org for additional information.

Critical Times

I just started reading Janet Mock's book Redefining Realness. I can't comment on the book yet but will when done. I thought about how this year has probably been the most eventful one for transgender people. It's also one I believe where we are focusing on the critical issues that affect us as a group.

In a couple of weeks I should have more information as to what the social justice ministry has in mind. Same goes for the glbtq ministry. With the election coming up next year, it's crucial that we all fight for the things we have gained.

Genevieve's Gems

We do not remember days, we remember moments.


~Cesare Pavese, Italian Poet (1908-1950)

Hispanic/Indigenous Heritage Day

Today we celebrated Hispanic/Indigenous Heritage Day at church. Rich traditions and food were part of the celebration. Indigenous people are all over the world and have been for centuries. Places like Mexico, central and South America , Australia and North America have a rich indigenous heritage. I have indigenous blood in my ancestry (Choctaw).  

There was a spiritual ceremony of prayer, incense offerings, sage, and a reminder of what we must do for future generations. Land is the most valuable item for indigenous people and when it was stolen from us it affected many. What I see is a lack of respect and honor for a different culture. Many tribes are trying to hold onto whatever culture and customs they may have left. Sadly, other cultures have totally disappeared. Much of this was done in the name of progress.

I am mindful of the fact that my being transgender, or two-spirit if you will, has caused me to reflect on the journey I am on. It may not be easy but it's one that I must continue. To my Hispanic and Indigenous brothers and sisters, keep moving forward. 

Genevieve's Gems

Every human has four endowments- self-awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom...  The power to choose, to respond, to change.

~Stephen Covey 

Sick

I was sick for a few days with sinuses. Feeling better today.

Genevieve's Gems

A smile is happiness you'll find right under your nose.


~Tom Wilson, Cartoonist (1931-2011)

Gender Reassignment Surgery

A trans woman I know will have Gender Reassignment Surgery in October. Naturally, she was nervous but me and others reassured her that everything will be okay and that she has our support. 

As I thought about this I see how important GRS is for some. To me anything that will improve one's quality of life is a step in the right direction. Not all trans women have the full surgery or, in my case, will not have the surgery. I doesn't mean that I'm not transgender. Each person is different. I'm not of the school that in order to be a 'true transsexual' one must have the complete surgery. That line of thinking is erroneous and in some cases dangerous. 

The transgender community is not a homogeneous community. There is much diversity in expression and identity, something that I witnessed during my questioning phase.  This was very instrumental in my progression to where I am now.  

To those men and women who are transitioning, I wish you the best and pray that all will go well. You are on your way to being the person that you truly are. You have my support.

Film Festival

I've attended Newfest in the past and find it very enjoyable. The films are excellent and very professionally done. To get tickets and the schedule, go to: 

www.newfest.org  

Genevieve's Gems

So I say to you, ask and it will be given to you; search, and you will find; knock, and the door will open to you.


~Jesus Christ

Most Active Year Coming Up

It look s like this will be the most active year of my life as a transgender person. The LGBTQI ministry at church is going and planning what we'll do this year. I also signed up for the Social Justice ministry. I'm already involved with a few other activities. 

This year I want to see things DONE! There's too much at stake for trans people and I can't sit idly by and watch all that we've accomplished taken away. Making sure that our trans history is not erased is near and dear to my heart. 

There's a few more activities I'm interested in but I don't want to spread myself too thin. It's funny but since I'm retired I'm busier now than when I was working. 

Book Club

This is the book I'm reading right now. There is a Transgender Literary Book Club at the Sage center of which me and another trans woman  will be a part of. I remember seeing this book during my early days of comig out. It was published in 2000, five years before I introduced Genevieve to the world. I just found the book today (the book club is on Thursday) so I'll read as much as I can. At least I can discuss something about the book. 

Genevieve's Gems

Your big opportunity may be right where you are now.


~Napolean Hill

Bittersweet Few Weeks

The past few weeks have been bittersweet for me. I'm still smarting from the Tamara Dominguez death in Kansas City a few weeks ago. Any death of transgender people is sad but the Dominguez murder really hit me. It was inhuman and criminal. 

A friend of my sister passed also at only forty-eight years young. My sister's health aide's brother passed away at twenty. It's been a weird time to say the least. For a trans woman personal safety is an issue with the increased visibility we face. We talked about this in our discussion group last night.

All wasn't sad though. On Saturday I attended a wedding were two lesbians friends of mine married. It was a wonderful occasion for everyone. Both women had large families in attendance.  This ended the week on a positive note. 

9/11

Hard to believe it's been fourteen years.

Genevieve's Gems

The greatest trap in our lives is not success, popularly or power, but self-rejection. 


~Henri Nouwen, Clergyman (1932-1996) 

Thinking Out Loud

I know it's a good two plus months away from Transgender Day Of Remembrance ceremonies but already I'm considering how to participate this year. It's more emotional for me because of all the transgender women murdered this year, at least the ones that have been reported.

I haven't felt this way since the second year I participated. At that time, I was wondering if I could handle it emotionally. Then I came to the conclusion that I needed to go. Of course I will attend TDOR this year. There's still three months left in 2015. How many more transgender women will be killed? 

Beyond Labels.

Yesterday the LGBTQI ministry, Beyond Labels, at church met to discuss the upcoming year. Last year the ministry branched out to the community and it has been very good. Two areas I'm interested in is social justice and education. I mentioned that I am interested sharing about transgender topics and what it is to e transgender. 

There is an LGBTQI population in my neighborhood. I have seen a few transgender folk, thought they are not always visible. We want them to know that there's a church which is open and affirming if they want to find a spiritual home. There's a another meeting coming up in few weeks so I'll keep you posted.

Candy Darling

Last night my wife and I watched the documentary Beautiful Darling: The Life and Times of Candy Darling, Andy Warhol "Superstar". It was an interesting look at Candy Darling, a transsexual woman who was part of Warhol's Factory, a collection of artists he filmed. Candy, born James Slattery, was born in 1944. I read her biography.

 My wife said that Candy reminded her of Marilyn Monroe. I saw here as a cross between '30s vixen Jean Harlow and Monroe, blonde siren of the 1950s and early 1960s. Candy believed that she could be a star and she did achieve that in some respects. When the 1970s rolled in Candy was tossed aside along with cohorts Jackie Curtis and Holly Woodlawn.  

I liked hearing Candy in her own voice in some of the scenes. I was in the service in the early seventies. Candy died March 21, 1974, two weeks after I got out of the army.  Her good friend Jeremiah Newton was executor of her belongings after Candy's death. Jeremiah was indeed a true friend. 

Beautiful Darling is a good documentary about the times and creative energy of the 1960s and early 1970s and the people who made it happen. Candy certainly did.

Genevieve's Gems

The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.


~Carl Rogers, Psychologist (1902-1987)

Companionship

Mature love is composed and sustaining; a celebration of commitment, companionship, and trust.

~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.


The subject of companionship came up at my discussion group this past Monday. I'm fortunate that my spouse stayed together after coming out a decade ago. Sadly, this is not true for many transgender women. Dating can be difficult. Would a man want to date a transgender woman? Would she be asked on a second date if she revealed that she is trans? Is the transgender woman resigned to a life of loneliness?

I thought about this over the past couple of days and concluded that no one is resigned to a life of loneliness. I also believe men should NOT be ashamed of dating a transgender woman. We want a mate who will love and respect us as we are. We want to go to a movie, party, or just enjoy a quiet night watching TV. We want to enjoy and live our lives like everyone.

Poem

Abeyance

Rebecca Foust

                               letter to my transgender daughter

I made soup tonight, with cabbage, chard
and thyme picked outside our back door.
For this moment the room is warm and light,
and I can presume you safe somewhere.
I know the night lives inside you. I know grave,
sad errors were made, dividing you, and hiding
you from you inside. I know a girl like you
was knifed last week, another set aflame.
I know I lack the words, or all the words I say
are wrong. I know I’ll call and you won’t answer,
and still I’ll call. I want to tell you
you were loved with all I had, recklessly,
and with abandon, loved the way the cabbage
in my garden near-inverts itself, splayed
to catch each last ray of sun. And how
the feeling furling-in only makes the heart
more dense and green. Tonight it seems like
something one could bear.

Guess what, Dad and I finally figured out Pandora,
and after all those years of silence, our old music
fills the air. It fills the air, and somehow, here,
at this instant and for this instant only
—perhaps three bars—what I recall
equals all I feel, and I remember all the words.

Many Differing Viewpoints

As a transgender person the view of the world is much different. I see it from the male viewpoint having been born and socialized as a male. I now see life as it from a woman's point of view. The being hit on, the suggestive comments, and how women are viewed in a patriarchal society.

I also see society's viewpoints about transgender people with a more critical eye. Much of society's views from a lack of knowledge, ignorance, hated, and now having to deal with a topic that was once considered taboo in some circles. As a Christian I understand some of the views the church has and why it has them. Is this confusing? I don't believe so.

I feel that I can discuss this with many differing groups; fundamentalists, confused parents, school officials, lawmakers, colleges, civic groups and other groups. Being prepared for such events is very important. I spoke to an adult education class at church a couple of years back about what it is to be transgender. A young woman who had transitioned also spoke (I have not had GRS). Many eyes were opened and minds made clear.

Having several view points allows me to have empathy for those are fearful and afraid. I can also be an encouragement to my trans brothers and sisters because I have face some of the same things they have or are facing. As trans people we have the advantage of helping those who don't understand. We are people people who want the same things everyone has. This is not special rights this is humanity.

Genevieve's Gems

First keep peace with yourself, then you can also bring peace to others.

~Thomas a Kempis

Be Safe

Last Saturday morning, Tamara Dominguez was killed and run over several times by her assailant. Ms. Dominguez, 36, makes it the seventeenth  transgender woman murdered this year and there's still 3 1/2 months left in the year. I mentioned that I'm not afraid but am concerned. I know a number of transgender women and am concerned about their safety,  

I encourage everyone to be careful where you go and let someone where you are going. Go in pairs  and avoid unnecessary confrontations. There are people out there who just want to start trouble. Have fun and be safe.

Transgender Women Being Murdered

Three transgender women of color were murdered last week. Sixteen transgender women have been killed in 2015 -those that have been reported. Only fourteen were killed all of 20l4. With the increased visibility of transgender people, especially people of color, all the haters were bound to come out. We were alleged reigning on their parade. Well, the time has come for us.

When I will look at the Transgender Day of Remembrance list of transgender women murdered this November, the vast majority of them will be black and Latina. What get me sometimes is the lack of response from some of the major LGBT organizations.  What concerns me even more is the attempted erasure of our contributions to the gay liberation movement some thing that is on record as happening. 

I live in New York City which is tolerant of LGBT people. I haven't had any trouble personally but I'm wary. I am aware of certain situations and what is going around me. I'm not fearful because I refuse to live in fear. I have every right to enjoy all things that everyone else enjoys. In the meantime I will work to improve the lives of all transgender people.  

Genevieve's Gems

Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud. 

~Maya Angelou, Author (1928-2014)

A Nun Helping Transgender People

I read this article today.


http://www.huffingto...4b0f73b20bad786

Thinking Out Loud

I was browsing over a list of transgender people who have lived across the ages. The list is quite extensive. It goes throughout all cultures, races, religions, and timelines. Here i the United States the transgender issue has come to the fore of numerous conversations in recent years. 

I've taken a keen interest in the Stonewall Riots of 1969 in New York City to make sure that it is historically accurate. Those who are trying to erase the transgender people's participation is something I cannot let happen.  I've read about Christine Jorgenson, Magnus Hirschfeld, Sylvia Rivera, Miss Major, Marsha P. Johnson, the Dewey Lunch Counter Sit-in of 1965 in Philadelphia, Cathay Williams, Janet Mock, Keith Cylar and many other people and events. What this tells me is that we have a very rich history.

When I was in grade school I absolutely HATED history. When I was 35 I had changed my whole view of history. Now that I'm transgender, I find it vitally important, something not to be taken for granted. Seems that I have become a historian not because I wanted to but because I needed to.

Genevieve's Gems

Experience is the teacher of all things.

~Julius Caesar

Demise of the Michigan's Womyn's Music Festival-Self-Inflicted

The final Michigan Womyn's Music Festival began on August 2nd and concludes o Sunday August 9th. From all accounts it was a successful venture. Unfortunately, it will always be remembered for the exclusion of transgender women. It's a shame because leadership had a chance to show the world that they are an inclusion and affirming venue for all TGLBQ folks.

I have always maintained that when an organization is struggling or going down the tubes you have to point to those running the organization. Lisa Vogel and her clan still lived the 1970s and refused to evolve. They consider trans women to be men which, in my ind is an insult to these women. If trans women did go to the festival they could tell anyone that were trans. This point alone would have kept me from ever attending because I absolutely refuse to go in the closet for anyone. 

As the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival winds down those who will blame trans women for ending this 40 year event are barking up the wrong tree. Look at Lisa Vogel and your cronies who still think this is 1978. They refused to evolve. As a result the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival will become a footnote in history. It's a shame because it could have turned out different.

Contentment

About this time nine years ago, an event happened that progressed toward becoming the person that I am today. It was strolling along the Hudson river boardwalk being Gennee. It was a warm late afternoon. A feeling of contentment and peace washed through me. For the first time I felt comfortable in my own skin. 

I never sought it or thought about it much before.When it actually happened, it moved me past the barriers of self-doubt and uncertainty. There would be other barriers that I would come to. Feeling comfortable in own skin allowed me to be who I really was. 

Genevieve's Gems

People do not lack strength, they lack will.

~Proverb

True Selves

This is the book I am currently reading. This book I have seen since I came out but I never had the chance to read it. I've read only thirty pages thus far and am impressed. This book was first published in 1996.  

Ageism

There are many isms (too many) which affect us personally or other people. One ism that is sometimes overlooked is ageism. It has affected me (I'm 66) and many others. It affects a number of areas in people's lives; employment, dating, available resources (unlike young people who have many resources) to name a few.

For transgender people this can be a double whammy. I think about this on occasion, especially concerning medical care. What would happen if I collapsed on the street and am taken to a hospital and the medical staff refuse to treat me because I'm trans. I haven't faced this situation (thankfully)but it is a thought.  

Ageism is a problem that needs to be dealt with. As a transgender person we need to not let it affect how we live. I absolutely refuse to live in fear. Do whatever we can to make our feelings felt. When you get senior citizens united for a cause, they are a tough and resilient group who will not back down.

Genevieve's Gems

Be true to yourself, help others, make each day your masterpiece, make friendship a fine art, drink deeply from good books - especially the Bible, build a shelter against a rainy day, give thanks for your blessings and pray for guidance every day.

~John Wooden

Christopher Street Pier

The Christopher Street Pier is actually a group of piers where people of all stripes hang out during the summer months. It is also an oasis for LGBTQ people, most youth of color. I've been coming here for a decade and I love it. There are families, seniors, joggers, sunbathers, a restaurant, and a bike path. 

Thirty years ago the pier was a dilapidated dump with rotting piers and buildings falling down. Gay people came here to 'cruise' and congregate. It could be dangerous at night with drugs, prostitution and crime a problem.

LGBTQ people flocked here because it was one of the few places where they could be themselves. At night time it was dangerous at night but they still came because of the freedom they had. It was also here at Stonewall veteran Marsha P. Johnson was found floating near the pier a short time after the pride parade in 1992.     

Yes, the piers have been repaired and modernized.It's also part of LGBT history of New York. There are some who wished we would be invisible and go away but we not going anywhere.

Tenth Anniversary This Coming Sunday

This coming Sunday, July 26th, will be the tenth anniversary of my coming out. It was such a liberating experience which has dramatically changed my life. 

There's so many places I could start. For one thing it ended the feeling of difference I had about myself, yet never knowing why I felt that way. It was on a day when home alone I decided to try on my spouse's skirt. I thought the urge would go away. Wow, was I wrong! The wheels were set in motion of which I couldn't stop. After some counseling and a period of denial, I came out to myself as a cross dresser. It was a few weeks later that realized my feelings ran much deeper. When did further research, I saw the word transgender for the first time. Right there it connected with me.

Today, I am a happy and content transgender woman. I've coming out to my immediate family and to my church congregation. That was truly a dream come true coming out to my spiritual family. I have met a group of people that I otherwise would have never come in contact with. 

I'm liberated and complete!

Genevieve's Gems

Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.

~Soren Kierkegaard 

Trans Rights and Religious Freedom

One question I've had in my mind when the religious freedom debate started was How does transgender rights (TGLBQ rights for that matter) infringe on someone else's religious freedom? 

I am a bible believing child of God who happens to be transgender. Jesus died for my sins just like he did for everyone else. My package is different from the norm just God loves me just the same. I have heard if transgender rights become the law of the land that it's the end of civilization as we know it. Really? Since when?  I don't keep anyone from practicing their faith. I never rip apart someone's character if our views are different. Everyone entitled to their own opinions and beliefs. I love my conservative Christian brothers and sisters in Christ. I just have a different viewpoint abut TGLBQ topics. 

How can anyone expect to uphold some tradition that not a part of my makeup. I never sought out to be transgender. I was created this way. My gay and lesbian and queer brothers and sisters were created the way they are. To say that they are less than deserving of the benefits and privileges of others is not only wrong but very unchristian like.  Are my opponents demonstrating Christian love by the hateful vitriol spewed in our direction?  May it never be.

Some people believe that we want to wreck society but that is NOT the case. We just want to live our lives. People will still get married and the institution is fine. I am happily married and am a parent and grandparent. Just because I'm transgender doesn't mean I'm evil-I'am just different. I embrace the difference. God is a God of diversity and he has a plan for each individual-gay, straight, lesbian, queer, transgender, black, white, male and female.

VF

Hey, why not?

Not Any Easy Answers

After pride month, I ask the the question 'What's next?' An easy question which can have an easy answer. Somehow, the answers may not come so easy. 

For the past several months I have dressed every day. I have mulled over the idea of changing my male name to female on all my documents. There are some personal challenges that need to be dealt with. Yes, there are numerous issues for transgender people that will need to be resolved. With that there will need to be some changes of the heart. 

This next year or so will be pivotal for transgender people as the presidential election will be coming up. Some wish to take away all the gains we've made. Others want to erase us from the TGLBTQ mosaic. This is something I am NOT going to let happen. Seems that I become a historian of sorts. I have learned in life that once you cross a certain line, I have to continue going ahead. Perhaps I'm just discovering things in me I never knew were there. 

Here I am nearly 67 years young and I want to take to the streets;to the battle lines. I want to be a vehicle for change. Reflecting on the past year, this is what I must do.

Genevieve's Gems

Here are the values that I stand for: honesty, equality, kindness, compassion, treating people the way you want to be treated and helping those in need. To me, those are traditional values.

~Ellen DeGeneres

Post Pride

We are in the second half of 2015. The June pride events here in New York are over. Now the work continues. ENDA and GENDA (here in New York state) both need to be passed. I'm taking a more active approach in the latter because GENDA is long overdue.  

I'm happy that marriage equality became the law of the land but in San Francisco it overshadowed the trans pride march. It reminded me of shortly after the Stonewall Riots in 1969, when transgender and gender-variant people (especially people of color) were shut out of the decision making process. Seems that I'm leaning toward being a historian because transgender people are being whitewashed from TGLG history. We helped shape many of the social movements throughout history. I refuse to see our influence pushed aside for assimilation and political correctness.

Plans are pride 2016 are being made now. I pray that ENDA and GENDA will be passed by next pride. I was encouraged by the large number of young people in the parade. I pray that this will lead into more grassroots activism. 

Happy Independence Day

Pink Hat

Whenever I wear my pink hat I get a compliment. Today a woman took a picture my wife and me. Maybe we're the seventh wonder of New York City (lol).  

State Senate Fails To Pass GENDA Again

For the eighth time at least, the New YORK state senate has failed to pass GENDA (Gender Employment Non-Discrimination Act) after the state assembly passed the measure. It means that transgender NewYorkers can still be fired from their jobs because they are transgender. This latest defeat is very disappointing.

I'm not giving up! I have to see what I and others can do to change this. GENDA, formerly known as SONYA, has been on the docket for about 15 years now. When marriage equality was passed in 2010 ,GENDA  was on the same platform but was overlooked in the hoopla of the passage of marriage equality. I have a couple of my own theories about this but that's for another day. In t he meantime, I will become involved  more with this until GENDA is passed.

NYC Pride Parade

The pride parade here in New York City was great. My wife, a friend and I helped serve water to the marchers. They thanked us like people happy to see an oasis in the desert. This pride parade was extra special because marriage equality for LGBTQ people is now the law of the land. 

While serving cups of water I was marveling at the many floats and creative costumes. Some of them took much work, I'm sure. I said to myself people are having fun and celebrating who they are. That's the idea of the parade. There were a number of churches who marched in the parade and that was great to see.

My only lament is that with corporations participating (and more money of course), the political and radical element is not present like it was in earlier days. I believe that this needs to brought back because there are still many, many issues that need to be tackled. All in all the parade was fun  and my friend really loved participating in it.

Genevieve's Gems

Disappointment will happen; it's how we handle that disappointment.

My Lovely Trans Ladies

I meet with a group of trans women twice a month. We meet at the local Sage Center and discuss a particular topic on that night. We all 60 years or older. We discussed topics like health care, loss dating, how we chose our names, etc. I truly LOVE these ladies. 

Later we hit a local restaurant where we talk about other things. These are some really creative, talented, and smart ladies! What's is important is that we are free to be ourselves. One woman says it's a breath of fresh air. I have to agree. There's no victim mentality here. Just love and support and encouragement.

A Success

Yesterday, during Sunday service,I shared a pride moment. I shared my transgender experience of coming out to the congregation three years earlier. I shared that God created us as we are and that He loves unconditionally. 

After service, many folks came to me saying how encouraged and point on I was. I love sharing my experiences to anyone who will listen. I pray that someone's heart was touched.

Living And Loving Life

A question was posed to me on one of my forums a few weeks back; How important is passing? I always try to look presentable as to put transgender people in a positive light. Fashion, dressing, and coordinating colors is second nature to me.

To me being able to live life as who I really am is most important. Once I discovered cross dressing and later being transgender it was a turning point in my life. When I went in public alone for the first time, that was it. I was going to live openly and without fear or shame. As time has passed, it is a normal part of me. I gone to restaurants, parties, movies, and plays. I've read poetry in public, acted, been interviewed, made a few speeches, and now writing plays. This coming Sunday I will speak to my church's congregation about my transgender experience.    

I enjoy each day and look forward to new and challenging adventures. I enjoy walking on the streets of Greenwich Village and East Village .  My spouse and I will go out coffee or dinner or an event. Living and enjoying life is truly a blessing.

Genevieve's Gems

Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.


~William Arthur Ward, Writer (1921-1994)

Sharing Transgender Experience At Church

This Sunday, June 21st, I will share my testimonial at the morning service about being transgender and Christian. I was approached about this several weeks ago and gladly accepted the invitation. I'm preparing a speech o what I want to say. It's suppose to be 2-3 minutes. I'll see how that works out.

Brooklyn Pride

I attended Brooklyn Pride this past Saturday. It was a picture perfect day and many folks came. Below are some of the pictures I took.  

Genevieve's Gems

I'm not concerned with your liking or disliking me....All I ask is that you respect me as a human being.


Jackie Robinson, Athlete (1919-1972)

Loss

Last night at the trans women s group discussion, the topic was loss and what TGLB people face. One of the ladies who regularly attended or meeting passed away in late May. A couple of other women have suffered loss in recent months.

Many trans people have lost families, friends and livelihoods. While loss can be devastating at the time, it's not permanent. It's the closing of one door and the opening of another. When I came out as transgender it was the end of my life as I knew it. It was the birth of a new life. At the Transgender Day of Remembrance vigil we not only honor those we've lost but celebrate their lives. 

If anyone here has suffered the loss of a loved one, friend, or a pet, bereavement resources are available at numerous locales. I love about my group is that we support each other. Loss does hurt but the hurt is not permanent and can open up new doors. 

June Is Pride Month

June has arrived and so has pride month. I must say that much has happened in the trans community in the past year. There are many victories to celebrate. I believe this year with increase visibility trans people will receive some of the accolades due us. 

This is also a time when I become a historian, sharing with others the role trans people played in the Stonewall Riots of 1969 here in New York City. I'm equally proud of what happened in Philadelphia when African-American gender variant and trans people successful made history by standing up to trans-phobia and bigotry fifty years ago. 

I am looking forward to celebrating pride with my TGLBQ brothers and sisters. As you see I have posted a new photo. I chose the transgender flag because I want to show my support and how proud I am to be transgender. I will be making more posts as there are numerous events taking place.

HAPPY PRIDE!

Sickness

Haven't been here in days because I was bedridden for several days with a very bad allergy.  Couldn't read or write because my head was hurting and eyes were watering like a river. I'm feeling better now and will be getting up to snuff very soon.

Joyful

Today was a mild and sunny Sunday. Services at church was good. People complimented my wife and me on our attire. Later in the day we strolled home to our residence. 

As I lie in bed taking rest, tears of joy swept through me. I thought about all my friends who have helped me through the years. I thought about the acceptance I have received from my church family as a transgender person. I though about the transgender women I see at or bimonthly meetings. I was happy to see a transitioning woman come back to church after many months. I offered condolences to a church member who lost his father. I thought about all the struggles I've had and still live life in a positive way. 

Pride month is coming up in two weeks and I pray that many of my TGLBQ brothers and sisters will remember where they come and be proud of who they are. Yes, there are struggles and stresses but I wouldn't change anything that has happened in my life. 

Genevieve's Gems

If your neighbor has a completely different view on abortion, gay marriage, stem cell research, all of those things, you still are both Americans. Neither one of you is necessarily more patriotic than the other. Neither loves their country any more than the other one does.

~Phil McGraw

Love My Brother and Sister; Partiality Is Unchristian

I host a weekly internet radio show about the bible from a transgender perspective. The past two programs have dealt with loving God but hating a brother or sister and the warning against partiality. How someone can say that they love God and hate their brother or sister is an oxymoron. Showing partiality is akin to hate. Someone will treat one person one way because they are rich or look or think like them, while they will show disdain and disrespect to another person because they are a different race, socioeconomic status, thinks outside the box. This is one of the reasons, I believe that many TGLBQ people are turned off by religion and church.

With transgender issues coming to the fore, that some people's love is being put to the test. Some  will say that I need to pray more because I'm a sinner. Or that I will damage the minds of children. Or that I'm a pervert. Christ died for me also. He created me the way I am. He has affirmed me as His transgender child. I find myself wanting to speak to groups and churches and share my story. 

There's a lot to do in the church reading TGLBQ topics. I wonder if the people who sit in the pews spewing their hate ever thought that there could be a transgender person sitting next to them or that your daughter could be lesbian. I wonder if they ever thought that everything their profession of loving God falls hollow simply by their actions. 

This topic has been on my mind the past few weeks. Many things are changing right before my eyes. I want to be a part of that change. Above all, I will love my brother and sister as Christ loved me. 

TO MOMS,GRANDMOTHERS 7 MOMS TO BE

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

GENEVIEVE'S GEMS

HONOR YOUR MOTHER 365 DAYS OF THE YEAR.

Thoughts About Mothers

As we pay homage to our mothers this Sunday, I think about the many hats that moms undertakes. Doctor. Teacher. Cook. Psychologist. She comforts us when we hurt and rejoices with us when something  good happens. She has faith that we can be anything that we want to be. My mom, who left this world in 2001, never ever let me quit on myself. This is her greatest legacy passed on to me.

I sometimes wonder if she knew that I was transgender. I didn't know that I was until a few years later. Perhaps the fact that I liked flowers and color pink may have given her an inkling of my gender variance. I only wish that she would have met Genevieve because I believe that she would have loved her. She probably knew that I could travel this journey. Mom probably saw something in me that I would discover much later. I'm grateful that she had the faith in me that I could traverse this road. Thank you, mom, for challenging me and encouraging me through thick and thin.




HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO ALL MOTHERS 

We Are Christ's Children Too

Today the need did my weekly internet radio show about the God's command to love our brothers and sisters. I am very perturbed when I hear Christians who say they love God and love Jesus vilify and demean TGLBQ people just because of who they are. 

I wonder if these same people ever stop to realize that they could be Christians that love God and Jesus who are transgender,gay, lesbian, bisexual, queer, or gender variant sitting in the seat next to them. I know of born again Christians who were ask to their places of worship just because of who they were. 

With the increased visibility of transgender and gender variant persons, I believe that some people's love is being put to the test. Do they really love God or do they have call I would call 'cultural Christianity?' Dr. Martin Luther King was correct when he said that the most segregated hour is Sunday morning service. For professing Christians it shouldn't be this way. 

This is an exciting time in our history as many places and institutions are discussing subjects like transgender rights and non discrimination policies. Transgender people have always existed and for someone to say that we are deviant and evil and mistakes is cruel and erroneous. There have been too many of us who have died because we were open and honest about who we were. The world is looking for authenticity,not the cookie cutter model presented by society.

I pray that hearts and minds will be changed during this exciting time.I thank God for the many places of worship who are open and affirming of TGLBQ people.I pray that more more will be. In the meanwhile, get to know the gay person or the transgender woman in your congregation. Let my lesbian sisters be a part of the ministry, Above all, let us love God and ALL those who enter our doors.   

Injured My Foot

Right now I am recovering from a foot injury. The stepladder tipped over while I was standing on it. I landed on the bar of the ladder, puncturing the sole of my foot. The foot swelled up a little so I put some ice on it. It's still sore but I feel much better. I'm walking with the aid of a cane. Should be better by the end of the weekend. I'm still taking my wife out for Mother's Day (it's also our anniversary).  

Genevieve's Gems

Don't make a problem bigger than it really is. 

Equality and Justice Day- Overview

Yesterday, I was present at Equality and Justice Day in Albany, New York. Over 600 people came to the annual event. It was comprised of mostly young people from all over the state which is encouraging. I tried posting yesterday on my tablet but could get a consistent internet connection.  

The day begun with a welcome from Empire State Pride Agenda. Later it was workshops and lobby visits with senators and assembly members. I decided to sit in on a workshop. Creating Supportive Schools for Transgender Students was the one I sat in on. I listened to high school students share their experiences of coming out in their respective schools. They all were bullied, harassed, and in some case with us strangers and encouraged them in their future endeavors.

I attended a rally at the capitol stairs after lunch. The speakers were eloquent and strong in their assessment of the need to pass the Gender Employment Non-Discrimination Act. I attended a workshop Queers in the Coop: Combating the Decline Of Safe Spaces and Improving LGBTQ Job Security with Workers Cooperatives. Afterwards, I spoke with one of the facilitators about the need for different types of coops, and that food coops, in particular, are growing. 

I met some wonderful people on the bus. On the way back our bus broke down so we doubled up with another bus. All in All it was a wonderful day and I learned more on my second go around. 

I will be traveling tomorrow to Albany, New York for Equality and Justice Day. We will meet with legislators, attend workshops, and a rally on the steps of the state capitol. Daniella Carter, a rising star as a trans activist, will be the featured speaker. I attend my first EJ Day last year and found it to be interesting and eye opening. There were many youth at last year's conference and I expect more this year.

My main reason for going is to see the state of the fight for employment protections for transgender people. the Gender Employment Non-Discrimination Act (GENDA) has been on the docket for over a decade now. It should have passed the same time marriage equality was in 2010 but was conveniently forgotten, even my the mainstream LGBT organizations because everyone was caught in the euphoria of the passage of marriage equality. 

I will get more information and see what I can do to help move this along. I will give updates as the day moves along.   

Prayer Meeting

Last night I went to a friend's home for a prayer meeting with gay and lesbian friends. Most of us have known each other for about ten years. It was great seeing them again as we all have our lives to live. 

There was conversation, food laughter, and later prayer and intercession. The spirit of God was in the place as we made our petitions to God. The haters who say that God hates us should have been with us last night. We love God, seek his guidance, and desire to do his will. Yes, our gender and sexuality are different but we are God's children also.

Genevieve's Gems

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.


~George Bernard Shaw, Dramatist (1856-1950)

A Day To Take A Blow

It's a rainy and cool day here in New York City. At least it's a chance to slow down. I have an active mid full of ideas, thoughts, and concerns. Last night I began writing a short story and have a play in mind.

I have been thinking about trans issues more since many of them are coming to the fore. Here in New York, the Gender Expression Non-Discrimination Act (GENDA) is an important issue for transgender people. There's so many issues out there so I have to funnel my focus on a few. I'm very happy that these things are even being discussed. Now to educate people about these subjects. 

I shared with a friend recently I'm busier now than when I was working and that I enjoy it. I'm doing the things that I love. Reflection is a good way to gauge where I am and where I need to go. Recharge the batteries and move ahead. 

No Slowing Down

I thought the week after Holy Week would slow down but it hasn't. I don't mind, though. I have a couple of book fairs this weekend. The Anarchist Book Fair and the Rainbow Book Fair are annual events I attend every year. I always come away with a book. The latter book fair is LGBTQ related.

I'm enjoying the mild weather we've been having this week. I put away some of my winter clothing. I'll keep a few winter items out in the event another cold snap hits. I'm looking forward to being out more this summer.

Three Peat!

Congratulations to the University of Connecticut women's basketball team! Champions for the third year in a row.

Genevieve's Gems

Creativity involves breaking out of established patterns in order to look at things in a different way.


~Edward de Bono, Psychologist (b.1933)

Holy Week

Holy Week concluded with Easter Sunday services. It was a wonderful week. My wife and I acted in a drama on Maundy Thursday. Hadn't acted in anything since I don't know when. Good Friday service was done in the New Orleans Jazz Funeral style. It was lively and joyful. There were two services on Easter Sunday.

Holy Week reminds me of the sacrifices and changes that have occurred in my own life. There has been joy, struggle, fun, learning, and the conclusion that I'm on the right course.  

DUKE!

    NCAA DIVISION I MEN'S BASKETBALL CHAMPIONS!


Congratulations to the Duke Blue Devils!

Genevieve' Gems

To live happily with other people, one should ask of them only what they can give.

~Tristan Bernard, French Playwright (1866-1947)