Friday, May 31, 2013


Heaven is the place where
happiness is everywhere.

~Langston Hughes

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Still Seeking and Exploring

About this time every year I reflect on how far my journey has come. Well, it's still ongoing. 

Prior to coming out as a cross dresser, I envisioned myself as a stripper, a porno star, or a leather man. I doubt that I would have acted on the first two. I was fascinated with the leather culture. I did much research on the lifestyle but concluded that it wasn't right for me.

Within the past few days I wonder why these thoughts all of a sudden entered my mind eight years ago? It's possible that these topics were so deep inside that I never even considered it. Now as a transgender woman,   I see that my life has so many facets. I understand that gender is rather fluid, but so are other areas. Emotions? For sure. Sexuality? I wonder. 

I chuckle sometimes when others try to put me in a box of their choosing. Labels achieve the same thing. It can be a starting point, but I understand why many reject it. Boxes and labels don't reveal the whole of a person should never define who we are. There's so much more to me that I realize. I'm still seeking and exploring.

Friday, May 24, 2013

Memorial Day

Everyone enjoy the Memorial Day weekend. Remember our men and women in uniform.

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Transgenderism And The Church

These days religion and the TLGB community is a hot topic. It's because many churches and denominations are having to deal with the fact there are in fact TLGB members in their ranks. It's funny what denial will do until your confronted with it. 

It's bad enough that society ridicules people who are perceived to be different from the the majority. When you throw religion and the bible into the mix then you have a recipe for disaster. What gets me is that bible passages are thrown in our faces saying that we are sinners. Well, from my understanding of scripture so are the people who accuse us. Pulling scripture out to prove someone's own biases is a dangerous game in which many people have been harmed emotionally and spiritually.

I'm pleased that some denominations are taking this topic because it is great needed.  I have long advocated that the church and Christians need to be at the forefront of social change. I'm happy to be in a church which believes the same thing. Being active in the community and having an impact is a witness to those who may feel marginalized and isolated. There's much to be done and I want to be a part of that change.


Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that ever step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.

~Brian Tracy

Friday, May 17, 2013

Pursuing Your Passion.

Today, I encouraged someone on one of the forums tom pursue her passion for writing. It has taken me may years to believe that I could make an impact writing. Now I'm working on a chapbook of poems.  

I always told my son to find someone that he really loves then pursue it as a life work. He loves video games and wants to design them. How many people are really doing something that they love? Everything isn't about money, prestige or power. It is about making an impact on others around you. I have been writing since I was sixteen. I have read my work before audiences. If my work impacts one person, I'm happy. 

Pursue something that you really love. I am a radio show host on the internet and a poet. Nearing retirement I am at the point of doing activities that I love. This is a message I share with people, especially the young. Chinese philosopher Confucius stated: Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life. 

This is so true.

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Pause For Thought

Many opponents label the passage of bills for transgender rights as a 'bathroom bill'. They stoke fear into uninformed people that allowing transgender people to use public accommodations will endanger the children and women. Well,  these people shouldn't talk.

How come the military is sweeping over 20,000 rape cases under the rug? How come lawmakers have a hard time protecting women from discrimination, abuse, and exploitation?  Recently, a transgender woman was denied the use of a dressing room because the owner felt the customers would be uncomfortable. I saw through that ruse! SHE was the one who was uncomfortable. 

I'm not about changing people's perceptions because that up to the individual. I have and will speak out about their hypocrisy and lies. I wish that I could stand in front of these people and have them tell me why we are not worthy of the same rights as everyone else. I wouldn't tolerate the smug arrogance some of them have. People who know me know when push comes to shove, I'll tangle with anybody-and I don't care who they are

    Thursday, May 09, 2013

    Homage To Mother

    As we pay homage to the mothers and the women who have influenced our lives, I have been reflecting on where life has brought me thus far. Mom had a big  influence on my direction in life. 

    With her encouragement I was able to have the confidence to tackle difficult tasks. In times of difficulty she handled things with a grace that amazed me. It was this example that helped shaped for me the struggles I would encounter. What I remember most is the hospitality she showed to those who were lonely, depressed, or needed encouragement. It's probably the reason that encouraging others is one mission I have in life.     

    My wife shared with me of a conversation she and mom had about my love of flowers and the color pink. I sometimes wonder if she knew that I would transition to Gennee? As we honor all mothers, let's remember that they brought us into the world. Maybe some of you didn't have the best upbringing or relationship with your mothers but remember you wouldn't be here either. Let Mothers Day be a day of rejoicing, remembrance and reflection.


    Tuesday, May 07, 2013

    The Beginning

    It was about this time eight years that I first began to question my gender. It was the beginning of a quest that would lead me in a totally different direction. I would later discover how different.

    I have been of the belief that life can take us into directions we didn't plan or seek. My emotional site was one of confusion. Here I was in my mid fifties and questioning if I was the person that I was supposed to me. The troubles began a few years earlier when I had this desire to 'break out'. The question was break out to what? I had no idea I had no clue what was trouble. That answer would be forthcoming in a few weeks.

    Friday, May 03, 2013


    It has become appallingly obvious that our technology has exceeded our humanity.

    ~Albert Einstein