My wife now knows that I am a crossdresser. I told her after she found my panties. She reacted calmly but I'm not sure if she approves. I professed my love to her and that this is a part of me.
It will take time for us to sort it out. I need to show her other things about crossdressing and transgender issues. I'm calm about it and now someone else knows. I was going o tell her in the future, but the future arrived a lot sooner than I expected. The point is that there's nothing to hide anymore. I never felt ashamed about being a crossdresser before and I don't now.