Monday, January 30, 2012

Attend Affirming Church

I attend an accepting church. My wife and I have become members as of yesterday. There were at least 3 gay couples and 5 or 6 lesbian couples. As far as I know I'm the only transgender person there. My wife and I feel comfortable and have made some friends.

I may speak with the pastor about my being transgender. I can honestly say that I feel comfortable about doing this. I'm also sensitive to my wife's feelings. She accepting of my dressing up to a point. Recently, for the first time, she walked beside me on the street while I was dressed. As you can small advances have made. I would make my day when I attend service dressed up.

Friday, January 27, 2012


Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wednesday, January 25, 2012


I am much happier as a transgender woman that I ever was as a man.I feel complete and liberated. I am comfortable with who I am what I have become. It keeps getting better.

I accept the fact that I'm different. Until I came out, I always felt that way but never knew why. I am part of humankind but present in a different way. My perspective about life is different, having experienced both ridicule and self doubt. I overlook both and now have a positive outlook.

Monday, January 23, 2012

Wife Notices Even More Of My Gender Transition

My wife has noticed more changes. Last Sunday while riding home, she commented that I cross my legs like a woman. A few days later she walked with me on the street for the first time when I was dressed. I'm wondering what other changes she's noticed?

I also entertained the possibility of transitioning. At this point I'm very sure that I won't but I have cogitated the idea. I never closed the door on transitioning but I have learned that many things in my journey have come to pass.

Friday, January 13, 2012


A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.

~Nelson Mandela

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Tansgender Issues

I have been reading quite bit about transgnder issues. There's much happening on the local, county, and international scale. I will be posting some results and a comment at least once a week but hopefully twice.

2012 will be a pivotal year for all Americans, and for the LGBTQ community in particular. Most important we need to make sure that those who supposedly represent us follow our wishes and concerns. If they don't we must take them to task. We need to occupy our own movement.

I am happy with the progress we made and much more needs to be done.

Monday, January 09, 2012

Coming Out More Than One Time Event

Coming out is a very personal matter. It's telling the world that this is who I am. I am mindful that my coming out process came several weeks after discovering that I was a crossdresser. When I did accept myself all of the stress in my life dissipated.

It took over a week that I had gone over a divide that I never imagined that I would cross. I have concluded that coming out is not a one time event. It's happened to me a number of times. I proceeded from a crossdresser to transgenderist to transgender.

At the present time I am experiencing another shift in my identity, moving closer to identifying as fully feminine. This is after a long period of relative calm. What has helped is that I embrace whatever comes. The journey will be ongoing replete with discoveries and adventures.

I enjoy reading posts from folks who have or are just coming out and accepting their sexuality/gender identity. For me it has become easier. I have never tried to pin down what gender is; I just enjoy the ride.

Friday, January 06, 2012


Dream no small dreams for they have no power to move the hearts of men.

~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, German Poet (1749-1832)

Tuesday, January 03, 2012


A new year has arrived. I'm very excited about the possibilities of new and challenging adventures. I see a new year as working to improve ourselves and have an impact on the lives of others. This is my main goal for 2012. I'm still working on specific goals at this time. One of them is to have my first chapbook published.

Do you have any goals or activities or adventures planned for the year? I would love to hear from you and share it with us.